We are Such Lovers
I'm such a lover.. you heard me right! I'm just saying I am SO NOT a fighter.. but that's not to say that I can't or haven't pulled out the ammo when I thought I needed to and if you asked my love.. he'd tell you that I am damn good at it and.. well so is he.
Let's just say a fight is pretty difficult to have by yourself, although it might make for great TV. When two people decide to enter the battle field - they do not enter it as a loving duo. No, they leave the sweetness behind and don the gloves of ego and pride! They begin to listen with the ears of defense and answer with the lips of offense.. each standing on their own ground trying to impose 'their way' of thinking or being on the other.
We've all been there at some point in our lives, protecting our pride at all costs - Our ego stands firm at our post and holds the line! The victory.. tear streaked cheeks and the feeling that you can't make the other person happy or understand you - trust me Pride & Ego NEVER wave the white flag and neither will stop until they've stripped one another of every dignity. So what to do?
* Drop your weapons! Ego & Pride have NO place in love.
* Listen to your love without defending EVEN when they may be attacking you, assume nothing and respond without offending.
* Remember that you love each other and that winning the fight of the night will not give you the triumph over the war.
If just one of you responds in unwavering love, the other will, in time drop their armor and you both will fall back into why you chose one another in the first place.. which is to explore together ~ for better or worse, to share together ~ in anger and in peace and to find beauty in each other's differences.
Let's just say a fight is pretty difficult to have by yourself, although it might make for great TV. When two people decide to enter the battle field - they do not enter it as a loving duo. No, they leave the sweetness behind and don the gloves of ego and pride! They begin to listen with the ears of defense and answer with the lips of offense.. each standing on their own ground trying to impose 'their way' of thinking or being on the other.
We've all been there at some point in our lives, protecting our pride at all costs - Our ego stands firm at our post and holds the line! The victory.. tear streaked cheeks and the feeling that you can't make the other person happy or understand you - trust me Pride & Ego NEVER wave the white flag and neither will stop until they've stripped one another of every dignity. So what to do?
* Drop your weapons! Ego & Pride have NO place in love.
* Listen to your love without defending EVEN when they may be attacking you, assume nothing and respond without offending.
* Remember that you love each other and that winning the fight of the night will not give you the triumph over the war.
If just one of you responds in unwavering love, the other will, in time drop their armor and you both will fall back into why you chose one another in the first place.. which is to explore together ~ for better or worse, to share together ~ in anger and in peace and to find beauty in each other's differences.
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